I want to always make sure I am highlighting the positive voices that are out there for your teenager. If you do not yet know Josh Shipp, you will want to check him out.
Here is what I like about Josh Shipp. He speaks your teenager’s favorite language, HUMOR. Then he uses that language to say to your teenager the same exact things you are saying. Yet, he gets a different reaction than the apathetic ones that frustrate you. Why? Because of the law of the 3rd Party. As a strategic parent you should be actively seeking positive “3rd Parties” in your teenager’s life. Ask yourself this question, did you have a mentor or older friend that you looked up to when you were a teenager? That is a 3rd Party!
The problem is that most parents just give up and believe they have no say so in the 3rd Party conversation. Not so! Especially if you start early in the adolescent journey you can play matchmaker for your teenager and their 3rd party. Now I will be honest, it may or may not work. But isn’t it worth a try? There is a fine line between strategic parent and a control freak, I admit that. But I say get out your tight-rope walking shoes and walk the fine line. Because if it works you could have an influential 3rd party in the life of your student who works to grow you and your teenager closer together instead of further apart.
Josh Shipp is one of those great voices that you will want your teenager to listen to. He gets them to laugh and then listen. It is a powerful gift that you can use to your advantage.