We spend most of our lives avoiding pain.
I get that.
Pain hurts. My natural instinct when I experience pain is to try to avoid it, medicate it, ignore it, or numb it.
Parents of Teenagers expend a ton of energy shielding, protecting, and guarding their teenager from pain. I don’t blame them for that. But no parent is strong enough to keep pain from their teenager forever.
I remember reading about children who were born without the ability to experience pain. My first reaction was, “That child is so blessed.”
Then I learned that those children would injure themselves and never know it. Imagine that. What must it be like to have a bone broken and never even know it?
You see pain is not all bad. Pain has a purpose in my life. Pain has purpose in your life. And pain can be a gift to your teenager.
Here are 27 Gifts that Pain has to offer…
1. The glorious realization that we are not in control of everything.
2. The recognition that we are hurt and need healing.
3. The understanding that we need others.
4. The cleansing power of tears.
5. The truth that tomorrow is not guaranteed so treasure today.
6. Being forced to leave what is comfortable and try something new.
7. An openness to new thoughts and ideas that were previously ignored.
8. Capturing the all important life lesson that our decisions have consequences.
10. Remembering the importance of family.
11. Being forced to live life one minute at a time.
12. A new understanding of what is really important.
13. We are forced to face our fear.
14. Developing a sensitivity to others in pain.
15. An opportunity to learn that there are no quick fixes to healing.
16. Being forced to ask for help.
17. The opportunity to discover who are your true friends.
18. Adventure. An adventure is filled with pain. An adventure without pain is called vacation.
19. An opportunity to discover that you have more strength in you than you ever imagined.
20. The strength of spirit that comes from surviving it.
21. The opportunity to acquire maturity.
22. The lesson that can be learned from our mistakes.
23. The all important understanding that the attempts to temporarily numb our pain typically only brings more pain.
24. The ability to identify what is wrong.
25. The passion to find a cure.
26. A new understanding of love’s power.
27. The opportunity to grow up.
Jeremy Lee encourages parents of teenagers every day at www.parentzilla.com. He lives in Nashville, TN with his wonderful wife, two amazing sons, and a crazy dog. You can follow him on twitter here and on facebook here.